tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post1041752051030883005..comments2023-12-14T13:49:25.768-08:00Comments on This Gay Relationship: Coming Out Month: A Sample Coming Out LetterRick Modienhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-61664400946595113612013-07-08T21:49:15.680-07:002013-07-08T21:49:15.680-07:00Wow, Anonymous. That's a severe reaction.
I...Wow, Anonymous. That's a severe reaction. <br /><br />I don't know your mother, but my guess is she's responding emotionally–she dreads the idea that her daughter could be gay. But it's possible she'll have a very different reaction, when she has to face the reality of what you tell her, and she realizes she has a choice to make: to reject the daughter she's loved and cherished all these years, or to accept her for the wonderful and amazing human being she is. <br /><br />All I can say is, give her time. Parents, and people in general, often say things they don't mean. I can't imagine she would rather be dead than have a lesbian daughter, and you must believe that is not the case too. <br /><br />I pray for the day when none of us has to come out or face the possibly of being rejected, just because of our sexual orientation. Frankly, I can't think of a less justified reason. <br /><br />If you're up to it, let me know how it goes. I'd really like to know.<br /><br />My thoughts and good wishes are with you. You can get through this. I promise you can, no matter the reaction. In terms of your own life, it will be the best thing you've ever done. Not coming out, because of fear, is not an option. <br /><br /> Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-44607854579690096402013-07-08T17:38:27.897-07:002013-07-08T17:38:27.897-07:00oh god I'm about to send it.to my.mom..I'm...oh god I'm about to send it.to my.mom..I'm scared since she texted.if you're a lesbian don't tell me id rathee be dead :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-56382039278874093642013-05-11T17:32:58.245-07:002013-05-11T17:32:58.245-07:00You are so welcome. I sincerely hope this helps.
...You are so welcome. I sincerely hope this helps.<br />Good luck. You are about to embark on the most exciting and best time of your life. <br />Everything will be fine. You'll see.<br />Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-57806189126908436742013-05-11T12:36:18.356-07:002013-05-11T12:36:18.356-07:00Thankyou sooooooooooo much!!!! I didn't even k...Thankyou sooooooooooo much!!!! I didn't even know where to start with my letter :) Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-38884909654758891082013-04-29T16:44:07.752-07:002013-04-29T16:44:07.752-07:00Anonymous, I'm so grateful you found something...Anonymous, I'm so grateful you found something here that you can use in your coming out process.<br /><br />Always remember, when you are at a loss for words, particularly about matters as sensitive as coming out to those who are most important to you, a good starting point is to speak from your heart. Let your heart tell you what must be said, and you'll never go wrong. <br /><br />The very best to you at this difficult and exciting time. Once you are out, you will finally be able to get on with the business of being who you were meant to be. And you'll wonder why you didn't do it sooner.Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-10947863565213374642013-04-29T13:13:59.374-07:002013-04-29T13:13:59.374-07:00Thank you so much, this helped plan mine when I wa...Thank you so much, this helped plan mine when I was in the darkness staring at the computer screen. Its hard to know what to write to your parents, and people like you who take time to help people like us is much appreciated:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-62756304315110052212012-12-29T07:59:40.817-08:002012-12-29T07:59:40.817-08:00You are so welcome, Anonymous.
It makes me happ...You are so welcome, Anonymous. <br /><br />It makes me happier than you can imagine to know something I've written or provided here has been helpful. That's the whole reason why I have this blog and continue to work on it.<br /><br />I sincerely wish you well during your coming out process, and I hope you'll check out some of the other posts I've written, which I think you'll find equally helpful in other ways.<br /><br />All the very best. Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-64404724863200401392012-12-28T14:43:35.632-08:002012-12-28T14:43:35.632-08:00thank you, thank you so much. thank you, thank you so much. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-28155452152979632792012-11-12T08:22:35.982-08:002012-11-12T08:22:35.982-08:00Thanks for your interest in my blog.
I'm so ...Thanks for your interest in my blog. <br />I'm so happy you found something here to help you on your journey to come out. I pray all goes well for you. <br />Coming out is a big step, but a necessary one. I'm sure once your family knows and has had time to digest it, they will be as supportive of you as ever.<br />All the very best. <br />Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-85925935739599099102012-11-11T22:14:09.217-08:002012-11-11T22:14:09.217-08:00Many Thanks I am copying this right now to send to...Many Thanks I am copying this right now to send to my mum!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-65298064472286331302011-10-08T16:43:45.847-07:002011-10-08T16:43:45.847-07:00Elevencats, the letter speaks exactly to how unfor...Elevencats, the letter speaks exactly to how unfortunate it is that those of us who aren't out often distance ourselves from the people who are most important to us. But remember, those we distance ourselves from, either physically or emotionally, probably feel it and have no idea why. They might even think it's something they've done, which it isn't at all. <br /><br />I think it's a defence mechanism for us: We distance loved ones first before they distance us. We build up the wall because we don't want to face the full blow of being cut off if things don't go well when we come out. I don't think I did this before I came out, and I don't recommend it, because we're making assumptions we know nothing about. Business as usual, I say, until we know differently for sure. Otherwise, loved ones could confront us before we're ready and ask why we're pulling away. Would you be ready to answer that question now if it came up?<br /><br />I think it's interesting that, in a previous comment, you said your father has a gay friend. I assume your father is open and accepting of his gay friend, so wouldn't that say something about how he'll respond to you when he finds out you're gay? Or do you think it's one thing to have a gay friend, and quite another to find out your own son is gay? Hard to say. Only you can gauge that situation.<br /><br />Please don't make assumptions about the love of your family before you truly know how they will respond to your sexual orientation. That's not fair to them, and it's certainly not fair to you. Just a suggestion that will help along the way.<br /><br />Thanks so much for taking the time to leave a comment.Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-19026127921204627442011-10-08T01:41:20.395-07:002011-10-08T01:41:20.395-07:00This is me. This is how I think! About the last pa...This is me. This is how I think! About the last paragraphs: I even feel like I've lost that love in some perspective. I'm keeping my family distant from me. And it makes me burn inside. Sometimes I even don't care about what they would say, or what they would do. I feel like I'm loosing or I've even lost their love completely, and the only way to make it it come alive again, is to tell them the truth.elevencatsnoreply@blogger.com