tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post1691541282635662481..comments2023-12-14T13:49:25.768-08:00Comments on This Gay Relationship: Sharing with Elevencats, Part OneRick Modienhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-10765181289021950462011-09-23T13:42:43.180-07:002011-09-23T13:42:43.180-07:00A few observations from your comment, elevencats:
...A few observations from your comment, elevencats:<br /><br />1). As the two-sided person you describe, your challenge is to integrate both sides into one. The fact they're separate right now is central to the frustration you feel from time to time.<br /><br />2). I've written other posts about "gay" being considered bad or stupid. You can't change what other people think, only what you think. Don't be concerned about other people's perceptions; worry only about your own, and how you look at yourself. <br /><br />3). I understand you're not ready to come out or have a partner yet. You have other priorities in your life, including school. But take a look at Part Two in this series, which I just published. It will give you a few ideas to think about on this subject.<br /><br />4). When you look at other people and think they have it all together, the truth is, they probably don't. Do I look like I have it all together? In some respects, perhaps I do (that's the beauty of getting older), but, in others, I'm still growing and learning, too. That's our lifelong journey as human beings. Just when you think you know, you don't. <br /><br />5). I must ask you again to stop thinking so negatively. You have as much of a chance as anyone. There is a place for you and you'll find it (actually, there are probably any number of places, not just one). And someone will love you. You must absolutely believe that. You have no choice. <br /><br />Thank you for trusting me to share your most personal thoughts with. They're not silly at all. They are a valid part of you, and you must honor them as I do with the time and effort I've put into addressing them in my blog. <br /><br />I look forward to your comment on Part Two. Part Three is soon on its way.Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.com