tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post1889990940411984418..comments2023-12-14T13:49:25.768-08:00Comments on This Gay Relationship: The Gay LifestyleRick Modienhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-18527569226513056502012-07-20T16:05:34.279-07:002012-07-20T16:05:34.279-07:00I agree, diogenesii.
It's a shame how some ...I agree, diogenesii. <br /><br />It's a shame how some young gay men look down at older gay men–like they're worthless, making them the butt of jokes, isolating them and seldom considering what they've been through or how helpful they could be. We must do a better job of embracing our older gay citizens and helping to lessen their loneliness. I feel this more and more every day as I grow older myself.<br /><br />And, yes, I make the same point you do about some straight folks living what I identify as the gay lifestyle. I refer to this in the paragraph following the list.<br /><br />Thanks for your interest in my blog and for your comment. I appreciate you taking the time.Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-24545790868117403282012-07-20T15:34:39.557-07:002012-07-20T15:34:39.557-07:00I would only add that the only item in the list ab...I would only add that the only item in the list above that might be considered unique to the "gay lifestyle" is no recognition of older gay people (certainly straights esteem their older members). Otherwise, there are certainly older straight men hitting on cute, young gals for sex, promiscuity, loneliness, substance abuse, public sex, dysfunctional ageing, and venereal disease in the "non-gay lifestyle."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-35446658277099954112011-11-04T13:16:45.932-07:002011-11-04T13:16:45.932-07:00Anonymous, I want to thank you so much for reachin...Anonymous, I want to thank you so much for reaching out to me and for writing such a heart-rending comment. <br /><br />I know you speak for many gay men who are in the same position as you. For that reason, I'd like to feature your comment, and my response to it, in a dedicated post on my blog. I hope to write something that will help you and them as well. <br /><br />Please check back soon. And thank you for your comment and for being so open and honest.Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-17563295332170784472011-11-04T11:46:35.338-07:002011-11-04T11:46:35.338-07:00Rick,
What you stated is true if you are one of th...Rick,<br />What you stated is true if you are one of the minority of gay men who wanted a relationship and has found that. Otherwise, the choices are simply to either find some other purpose in life(in other words be a busy bee)or to seek someone out, which means being subjected to what you described as the typical gay lifestyle(you've hit the nail on the head except that you neglected to mention the high degree of mental disorders and the callous nature of adult gay men toward other gay men). <br />I am your age. Although I was certainly an intelligent, masculine, reasonably attractive guy, 30 plus years of searching netted nothing. Love has to happen, and part of that is having access to a number of partners who would be relationship oriented and to whom I would be attracted. I have found that I can be more alone when I am with someone than when I am actually alone, so no sense putting a round peg in a square hole if the relationship doesn't work. In addition, I have been jolted severely probably 20 or more times. I watch women who have fatal attractions to men, and I honestly cannot find the commonality that is evident in such fatal attractions. At any rate, the resultant depression from all of this has led me to job loss and financial ruin, and certainly an inability to retire. I have been in psychiatric institutions 3 times with severe depression, suffered as a result of having been emotionally jolted. <br />Like you, I ignore my orientation at this point although I find myself no longer wanting to associate with straight people, including family, who typically have partners and children. <br />This is not a good life. The structure of the male gay community is merely focused on commerce, sex and vanity. It is too late for me but I would hope that things could be better for future generations.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-20332609694339925452011-03-15T22:53:42.120-07:002011-03-15T22:53:42.120-07:00Again, you are welcome, Sarah. I love when I rece...Again, you are welcome, Sarah. I love when I receive a comment from you because I know it will be positive and uplifting. They make me feel good, that's for sure. <br /><br />Thanks.Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-4771072127936476692011-03-15T18:34:50.896-07:002011-03-15T18:34:50.896-07:00You're doing the hard work here, Rick, we'...You're doing the hard work here, Rick, we're just reaping the rewards and commenting! But thanks, as always, for your sweet words...Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07590889190847673743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-29365966420483013162011-03-15T13:01:20.458-07:002011-03-15T13:01:20.458-07:00Sarah, this is such a powerful comment that I want...Sarah, this is such a powerful comment that I want to feature it in a separate post and respond to it there. I hope you don't mind. I promise, I will try to do it justice.<br /><br />For now, I'll say a simple thank you (but that doesn't begin to tell you how grateful I am).Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-52634186973201812662011-03-12T19:28:55.230-08:002011-03-12T19:28:55.230-08:00You know, Rick, when I was trying to do a little &...You know, Rick, when I was trying to do a little "background" learning before I started as a facilitator at that youth group, I bought a few LGBT magazines, as well as that collection of coming out stories you knew about. I think you've mentioned this before, but I was really struck by how much of the magazine (one more so than others, of course the name escapes me, but it was a Canadian publication) dedicated space to fairly trivial and sex-related stuff, as opposed to articles about issues facing gays and lesbians, or just current events/political issues, and how they affect the LGBT community. Given the volunteer work I do (at the Calgary Sexual Health Centre) I'd certainly describe myself as "sex positive," so I don't mean I have anything against sex, but there was just a very casual, "how to hook-up" feeling to the articles, it didn't represent the gay men who I know very well (you included, if I may presume to say I know you!) Anyway, I think what you're doing really fills a void. As you write these posts, perhaps some day you'll consider putting them together into book form? It could be a really wonderful thing for young people who are just coming out/beginning to navigate within the LGBT community to have. I would, of course, be honoured to proof-read for free!!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07590889190847673743noreply@blogger.com