tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post4014981819196047839..comments2023-12-14T13:49:25.768-08:00Comments on This Gay Relationship: March to the Beat of Your Own Drum…Even When You're GayRick Modienhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-56384118662707128412013-07-03T15:12:45.447-07:002013-07-03T15:12:45.447-07:00Thanks so much for your comment, Loretta.
For what...Thanks so much for your comment, Loretta.<br />For whatever reason, I didn't receive your comment in my email inbox, so I didn't know until now (July 3) that you took the trouble to write it. <br />I appreciate your kindness. Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-83736960125012768232013-06-17T13:18:33.151-07:002013-06-17T13:18:33.151-07:00Matthew, I wish I had seen a blog like this when I...Matthew, I wish I had seen a blog like this when I was a teenager, too. It would have made all the difference in terms of how I saw myself as a young gay man. Of course, way back when, it wasn't yet okay to be gay (in some places, and in some people's minds, it still isn't), and personal computers hadn't been invented yet. And the Internet…well, in the 1970s, who knew we'd ever have that? But what a blessing it's been in so many ways. <br /><br />I have such respect and admiration for you. The fact you're not willing to share your body with, or give your self-respect away to, just anyone says a lot about your character, and how you feel about yourself. Yes, indeed, love and sex must always be intertwined. I could use all the help I can get to spread that message. It will be an uphill battle with some, but, increasingly, I hear from young men like you, who, through their words, tell me gay men, as a whole, are changing for the better.<br /><br />Your comment, "Now I am at the same point you were before you began your relationship," is somewhat cryptic. I'm not sure you're the same age I was when I finally met Chris, or if you're ready for that committed, monogamous relationship, or both. Whatever the case, never compromise your standards. You will find someone out there who will love you exactly the way you are, and you will finally fit in with the only two people who really count: you and your partner. <br /><br />Thanks for your comment and your good wishes. I appreciate them. Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-68572546325240504772013-06-15T18:41:23.615-07:002013-06-15T18:41:23.615-07:00I wish I had seen a blog like this when I was a te...I wish I had seen a blog like this when I was a teenager. I wanted someone to let me know it was okay to be gay and not to want loveless sex. Protection from STDs was part of it, but once I gained enough experience to know the difference, I knew it was because I have to be able to trust a man before I share my body with him. Sex and love will always be intertwined for that reason.<br /><br />But I don't fit in with anyone either; I tried to fit into straight culture and failed, and the gay men I thought would embrace me just ignored me. Now I am at the same point where you were before you began your relationship (and congratulations on your 21st anniversary, BTW).Matthewnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-10579318592817721332013-06-05T09:01:16.447-07:002013-06-05T09:01:16.447-07:00Dear Rick
Once again, sage advice, not only for t...Dear Rick<br /><br />Once again, sage advice, not only for the gay community, but for humanity at large. I appreciate your wisdom and insight.<br /><br />Love<br />LorettaLorettanoreply@blogger.com