tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post4686424958235020927..comments2023-12-14T13:49:25.768-08:00Comments on This Gay Relationship: MasturbationRick Modienhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-1859263611202859302014-08-21T16:57:46.072-07:002014-08-21T16:57:46.072-07:00Simon, I couldn't agree more. I really apprec...Simon, I couldn't agree more. I really appreciate your thoughtful comment on this unfortunate situation.<br /><br />That said, if what I wrote in this post can remove even a little of the stigma and shame associated with what I believe is a very human (and common) activity, and help to make a young person feel better about what he does, then it will have been worth my while.<br /><br />But, yes, kids will always be kids. I don't think even sensitivity training would have made a difference in this case. <br /><br />I'm hopeful the young man, who took the video and posted it, learned his lesson as a result of what happened. Imagine having the suicide of another human being hanging over your head for the rest of your life. Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-152295792281910362014-08-20T17:49:32.952-07:002014-08-20T17:49:32.952-07:00I cannot claim to know the intent of the boy takin...I cannot claim to know the intent of the boy taking the video, the school who indulged in the viral sensation, or the poor soul who ended his life over it. I do know that even though most schools educate on masturbation, and even if a celebrity comes out and says it's ok, kids will still find ways to mock each other over a number of vulnerabilities, and this will always be one of them. I somehow believe that the key here is vulnerability. The boy was caught doing something private, which should be private, and some boys looking to further isolate a boy who was already on the shit list used that to their advantage. My suspicion is that even if they caught the boy taking a dump, or walking around with a booger on his face or toilet paper on his shoe, they would have exploited that just as much. This is how things go in high school. Not to condone the behavior at all, I just think it's a deeper issue than allowing discourse about masturbation. I think sensitivity training towards people in general is warranted.Simonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-22083129292175875582014-07-23T15:24:12.505-07:002014-07-23T15:24:12.505-07:00Good point, oskyldig, and I couldn't agree mor...Good point, oskyldig, and I couldn't agree more.<br /><br />I suppose masturbation, like anything, can be taken to an extreme. But that's not the context in which I'm writing about it here.<br /><br />In the normal course, I believe masturbation has it's place in most people's lives, as well as in the sex lives of well-adjusted and loving couples.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing. Your comment is an important one. Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-45339166276968370022014-07-23T14:52:24.219-07:002014-07-23T14:52:24.219-07:00Well I'm going to take a little bit of a diffe...Well I'm going to take a little bit of a different direction on this reply. While you indicate it as being a healthy part of (most) people's sex life, you have to remember that there are two sides to many coins. <br /><br />I have encountered communities of "NoFappers" on the internet; mostly men who have become addicted to pornography and as a result the PMO (Porn, Masterbation, Orgasm) has ruined their lives and relationships. These members try desperately to reprogram their brains and kick, essentially an addiction. <br /><br />While it is in fact a personal choice, I think that people need to become aware of what drives and controls their habits when it comes to this, as well as other things. While there is nothing wrong with it, you have to accept that people may abstain for personal reasons, and it in no way should stigmatise them in the same way that you write about people who do masterbate are stigmatised. <br /><br />Just some food for thought. :)oskyldighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18421614450051721172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-51370478259960983802014-07-23T09:59:30.479-07:002014-07-23T09:59:30.479-07:00Wow, oskyldig. I didn't think I'd get a s...Wow, oskyldig. I didn't think I'd get a single comment on this post, so shocked or offended or upset some of my readers might be that I brought up the subject. Just goes to show, as you say, the European sensibility–at least some European countries–is much different from the North American. <br /><br />It's past time we recognize masturbation as a healthy part of everyone's sex life, and there should be absolutely no shame or guilt associated with it. If I can generate some discussion around the subject, get people thinking about it a little differently, more openly, so much the better. Then putting myself out there will be worth it. <br /><br />Thanks for your terrific comment. I really appreciate your interest. Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-76302185116637810352014-07-23T06:31:22.368-07:002014-07-23T06:31:22.368-07:00I find it interesting that you write about that. I...I find it interesting that you write about that. In my experience, the problems associated with masterbation seem to be linked culturally. Where I come from it's not a stigma or a problem, it's just something.<br /><br />In North America, there is still a lot of society that is built on puritanical belief system, and shame and guilt plays a huge role. It's unfortunate, but it's sadly the way it is.oskyldighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18421614450051721172noreply@blogger.com