tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post4754891281095620681..comments2023-12-14T13:49:25.768-08:00Comments on This Gay Relationship: A Sunday in the Life of "This Gay Relationship"Rick Modienhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-59432624785561729562014-09-10T22:15:06.204-07:002014-09-10T22:15:06.204-07:00This comment made me laugh out loud in recognition...This comment made me laugh out loud in recognition, because of how ordinary what you did was, how extraordinarily special it was too, and how beautiful I found it to witness the love between you and Mark in the simplest things you do together.<br /><br />Dude, we have it made, don't we? Isn't what we have what most of us want (some would admit it, but others wouldn't, because they're too damn scared of love or commitment or whatever). I LOVE the detail you shared here, to the extent that I can envision the two of you together, making memories, things you'll talk about for years to come. Pretty special stuff.<br /><br />Simon, the whole point of this post was to show the world just how bloody ordinary Chris and I are, as a gay couple. There is nothing for anyone to fear in the love we have for each other. We are just like everyone else. We want to live our lives, be respected as human beings, and experience the truth and beauty of love. There's really nothing else, is there? <br /><br />This is what it's all about (and let those who want to role their eyes at what we have go right ahead). Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-27099723084955999992014-09-04T16:01:07.327-07:002014-09-04T16:01:07.327-07:00Simon, I hope you'll forgive me, but I'm a...Simon, I hope you'll forgive me, but I'm away from home until next week, visiting my mother, and I don't have the opportunity to respond to all your wonderful, and generous, blog post comments. I hope you'll check back next week, when I can focus on what you've written and respond appropriately.<br /><br />By the way, I love hearing from you, so please don't stop. I hope you'll find something else in my blog that interests you and inspires you to keep in contact.<br /><br />Until next week.Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-34681442196232838482014-09-04T00:34:12.099-07:002014-09-04T00:34:12.099-07:00...continued
We had a nice sunset view on the bea......continued<br /><br />We had a nice sunset view on the beach, while singing some songs together in silly voices. He cracks me up when he sings in his fake Indian voice.<br /><br />Then we got some groceries and made up a sausage and pasta dish back at my place, and used the leftover beef broth from the Indonesian stew (which at the time I had thought he was crazy to save and put in the fridge), and it was really great. I also got creative with some ciabatta bread from the farmer's market, and made up some bruschetta, using fresh ingredients from the market: chevre, pecorino, basil, olives, roma tomatoes, balsamic drizzle, and of course the all important truffle spread, generously applied. We splurged on some nicer red wine at the grocery, and opened that up and snacked and sipped vino while he finished making the pasta. At one point during the cooking, he looked at me with a huge smile of gratitude and gave me a kiss before turning back to his pasta. Everything turned out lovely, and we spent the next couple hours after dinner quizzing each other on our knowledge of 80s hits (at which we are both self-professed experts), and listened to some obscure 80s stuff on Spotify, taking turns with songs we wanted to hear again. <br /><br />Then, our long weekend coming to a close, we kissed goodbye, and he went home...and the ritual is always that we watch each other leave out the window too, even after saying bye, and there are lots of waves goodbye until we can't see each other anymore. This time I held one the cats while saying bye, sometimes making the cat's paw say bye.<br /><br />Many of our weekends involve trips or concerts, dancing, hitting a new restaurant in SF, cooking, or simply watching a sporting event or sitting in a café quietly reading our books together. Each weekend is a bit different, but it's entirely all about just another ordinary gay couple doing what they do, sharing their time, enjoying the simplicities of life, working out differences as they come up, and generally trying hard not to overthrow the government or organized religion, as many still believe we are up to...<br /><br />Thanks for reading.Simonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-62861066361153435942014-09-04T00:33:53.567-07:002014-09-04T00:33:53.567-07:00I'm inspired to chime in as well, to share my ...I'm inspired to chime in as well, to share my 'gay boring weekend' too...which to us, isn't boring at all, just like yours isn't either. I'm so glad you shared this. I feel like it's often 'not cool' to talk about my relationship, or what we do together, because people think we're bragging or boring. I've gotten a few eye rolls at mere mentions of our happiness, or in the silly fun we engage in...or even the downright normalcy of it all. I think it's interesting, and I wish more gay men wrote like you, and shared this stuff. <br /><br />So here goes...<br /><br />Monday was Labor Day, and my boyfriend Mark and I had spent the long weekend at my place. He had made Indonesian beef stew on Saturday, using spices he got from his recent trip, and I had made Chicken Tikka Masala on Sunday, which I am always trying to perfect (but I'm not quite there yet, as good as it tastes). Monday morning, after some really great intimate time together and showering up, it was all about creative use of leftovers. For brunch, Mark made a rice omelet, and used some of the leftover masala sauce in the middle. Then, we also made toast and tried out the new jams we bought the day before, and he tried his hand at a cold brew coffee which he brewed in a French press from the night before. Also had some plain yogurt with plum and apricots chopped up from the farmer's market the day before. <br /><br />I had a wild idea, let's spread this new truffle spread I found onto the omelet! Mark thought that was a really bad call. But, in my truest form, I put some onto my omelet, defying his humored disapproval, and it was incredible. It added a lovely mushroom flavor to the already eclectic omelet. He ventured to take a bite, and was surprised at how good it was, so then he put it on his piece too. <br /><br />Then we cleaned the house, and groomed the cats. I had told him recently about a time years ago where I had gone with a couple friends to Half Moon Bay and saw a lovely llama in the yard of a house on the way to the beach. He spontaneously suggested that if we leave after doing the dishes, we could make it from SF down to HMB in an hour, and have enough time to see this llama (assuming she was still there), and check out the sunset on the beach, and plan our dinner. We did just that, the llama was still there, was wholly unresponsive to us (she merely stared at us while we made all kinds of sounds to encourage her to come closer), and we had learned that this llama was once owned by Neil Young, who traded her for 15 geese.<br /><br />...loquaciousness continues at next post...Simonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-67967442644908016892011-02-09T11:33:25.322-08:002011-02-09T11:33:25.322-08:00You know, Heather, if I can do anything to demysti...You know, Heather, if I can do anything to demystify gay relationships as compared to straight ones, then I will be one happy man. <br />I love writing about the bigger subjects, those I'm passionate about (most recently self-esteem in gay people), but part of what I want to do here also is demonstrate just how ordinary gay people are. When it comes to living life on a daily basis, Chris and I do that just like everyone else. No mysteries. No surprises. We put our pants on one leg at a time, too. So if I can help normalize gay people in the eyes of non-gays, then so much the better.<br />Your kind words are so appreciated. And, dare I say it, encouraging.Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-55709263329878238122011-02-09T11:13:58.764-08:002011-02-09T11:13:58.764-08:00Thank you. This post is neither arrogant or dull. ...Thank you. This post is neither arrogant or dull. This gay relationship is just like anyone else's which is all I ask people to understand when they're trying to understand my homosexuality against their heterosexuality. Though you might have traditional roles within your relationship, Rick, it's not really about stereotypes for me, as there are hetero couples who have traditional roles, but the gender dynamic is reversed. <br /><br />I am thrilled to be privy to some of your more intimate life. I'm glad that that you're feeling open and confident enough in our appreciation for you to share these things. Thank you. A million times over.chaoticGRRLhttp://chaoticgrrl.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-17945823601516708252011-02-09T11:09:31.505-08:002011-02-09T11:09:31.505-08:00Doug, I said the same thing to Chris about Kurt. ...Doug, I said the same thing to Chris about Kurt. He may be free of the bullying he received at McKinley, but viewers are missing out on his incredible talent as part of New Directions. I still think about "Le Jazz Hot" he sang from "Victor/Victoria." I want to see more of that sort of thing, but I don't see how he can be that outrageous attending school at the sedate Dalton Academy. <br />Quick, get Kurt back to McKinley, so he can take out his hurt and frustration in his performances.<br />(Plus, we need to get him back in contact with Dave Karofsky. I'm DYING to see what happens there.)<br />Thanks for your comment.Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-45477457195208713112011-02-09T00:10:48.807-08:002011-02-09T00:10:48.807-08:00@Rick: Oh I dont get up till 8:30 or 9:00.. I dont...@Rick: Oh I dont get up till 8:30 or 9:00.. I dont function well in the morning! We work out together in the afternoon, three times a week. Jesse goes every day. So really I'm a slug-a-doug : ) I'm hoping to get Jesse interested in more culturey stuff downtown. Loved the sunday episode, but it feels like Kurt now isolated in his private school world. Makes it seem like he can't hack it in the "real" world. Karofsky character is a little scary but interesting.<br /><br />@Elevencats: You sound so positive now... hope your new semester is a great one!Doughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05931170635280052744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-74290243819715675502011-02-08T11:58:57.639-08:002011-02-08T11:58:57.639-08:00I'm so grateful to hear from you again, eleven...I'm so grateful to hear from you again, elevencats, as I'm sure my other readers are, too. I hope your vacation has been a good one. Sounds like you're simply letting go and recharging before you have to return to school. All of us can relate to that. <br />I'm glad to hear you are positive and excited about a new semester. And the fact you've started a new course in photography is excellent. Not that I knew you before, but it sounds like the old elevencats is coming back--the happier one--and that's great. Keep on being the young man you were meant to be.<br />I wrote many of my posts some time ago, so I have no idea what you're reading and what headspace I was in when they came out of me. The fact you think these posts are so full of life makes me feel good. I'm sure some are not all that positive, so watch out for those. They're lurking somewhere.<br />You have no idea how thrilled I am that you're digging back into my past posts and enjoying them. I'm not sure this is insecurity talking, but, sometimes, I wonder if what I write here really makes a difference, or if anyone gets anything out of them. Your compliment makes me feel so much better. Thank you. I really appreciate it.<br />Please keep in touch. Don't be scared to write any time you want to. <br />Thanks again.Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-17029039501367443422011-02-08T01:51:07.290-08:002011-02-08T01:51:07.290-08:00It was so heart-worming! Haruki Murakami's boo...It was so heart-worming! Haruki Murakami's books (which I love) came to mind.<br /><br />I was babysitting my little sister for a week at my parents home and for the last two days of my vacation I have been just sleeping in, going to the movies, reading your older posts. My mind has been so turned off lately and this is the reason for the few comments.<br /><br />I'm quite positive, a new semester has begun and the subjects have been very interesting. Plus today I have a new hobby course in photography. <br /><br />Your posts are so full of life. Thank you for spreading the love!elevencatsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-81492980355605617592011-02-07T22:58:24.379-08:002011-02-07T22:58:24.379-08:00Both of you are so sweet and so generous with your...Both of you are so sweet and so generous with your compliments. I almost didn't publish this post, thinking it was too dull or even arrogant--as though anyone would be interested to read about what Chris and I do on a typical Sunday. How dull is that?<br /><br />@Sarah: I'm a bit of a picky eater, but I'm always interested in new recipes. Bring them on.<br /><br />@Doug: What do you do while Jesse goes to work out? Can I ask why you don't work out with him? <br />When we lived downtown, we always did interesting things together. There's so much to downtown. Here..not so much.<br />You are quite right about the difference between apartment and house living. Even between townhouse and house living. At least in an apartment or townhouse, the strata looks after a lot of stuff. But, when you buy a house, you look after everything yourself. And I mean everything.<br />The "Glee" episode was amazing. I'm sure you'll enjoy it. Don't forget, there's another episode this week tomorrow, on Tuesday evening. Can't wait for that. (Secretly, I hope something goes on between Curt and Karofsky. Now, wouldn't that be a story? I guess we'll see.)<br /><br />Again, my thanks to both of you. I really appreciate your interest in what I write.Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-45413154032931826242011-02-07T21:30:26.568-08:002011-02-07T21:30:26.568-08:00Great post Rick! It was fun to read about a day in...Great post Rick! It was fun to read about a day in your lives. You and Chris really complement each other well, and like you say, are a well-oiled enterprise. I admire you waking up early and going running too. Jesse always likes to wake up early and go to the gym. Then we have breakfast together and plan our day, which often involves food shopping in Chinatown, or exploring in Stanley Park. We alternate with the cooking depending on who has time, or has a great idea for dinner. But I can see that apartment living is a lot less work than a house! I'm hoping to watch Glee tonight online... I love that show.Doughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05931170635280052744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-76713408287331853922011-02-07T19:38:29.089-08:002011-02-07T19:38:29.089-08:00I love it! What a great post! And fitting that as ...I love it! What a great post! And fitting that as I was reading about you watching Glee, "Teenage Dream Glee version" came up on my iPod. That's really neat to see how you plan out your meals (I've never been that organized, but it sounds like a really good way to do it.) I may just have to email you some of my favourite recipes now! <br /><br />Thank you so much for sharing an ordinary day with us, Rick, you guys sound like you work very well together.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07590889190847673743noreply@blogger.com