tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post6711746004919336957..comments2023-12-14T13:49:25.768-08:00Comments on This Gay Relationship: The Role of Envy in Being GayRick Modienhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-59260423043751564322017-07-18T16:42:25.232-07:002017-07-18T16:42:25.232-07:00It's always a thrill to hear from a new reader...It's always a thrill to hear from a new reader, and to know something I wrote inspired, meant something, or resonated. <br /><br />Thank you for your kind words, and for showing me that what was true for me can also be true for others.Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-74604969803199687462017-07-17T19:35:07.807-07:002017-07-17T19:35:07.807-07:00Thank you a lot for this. I'm a lesbian who th...Thank you a lot for this. I'm a lesbian who thought for a long time that her attraction to other girls was envy, and thus spent her teenage years piercingly, obsessively jealous of them. I laughed uncomfortably a few times reading this because it was too real, too much about who I was for ten years of my life.<br /><br />It is very, very reassuring to know that other gay people have gone through the same teething pains as you have, and have come out the other side with a good perspective on it. Thank you again. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-89793031667762126702017-02-19T13:40:41.489-08:002017-02-19T13:40:41.489-08:00You are welcome. Hard to believe I wrote this ove...You are welcome. Hard to believe I wrote this over seven years ago. But I'm glad you brought it to my attention––I read it over, reminded myself what I wrote, and made a few edits. <br /><br />I'm glad you found this post helpful. When I wrote it, I knew there had to be someone who felt the same way I did, who was looking for a name for how he felt. <br /><br />If, in fact, your envy is really attraction, then I hope you are comfortable with that, or you are working on being comfortable with it. <br /><br />The process is long and often difficult, but the most important message you can take away from what I've written is, it's perfectly okay to be what you are, to embrace it, and to love yourself. <br /><br />Thanks for contacting me, and I hope you'll find other posts here that will help you on your journey to self-acceptance and love. Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-37881422570482513152017-02-19T12:29:00.031-08:002017-02-19T12:29:00.031-08:00Rick! Thank you for sharing this. I'm 25 almos...Rick! Thank you for sharing this. I'm 25 almost 26 years old boy/man from Israel. I'm experiencing the things you have talked about (7 years ago, apparently) and it sheds lights for me on my sexual orientation and same sex envy. You helped me put a name on my messy mixed and painful feelings I have for men and myself. And that's a start, isn't it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-87535344027774871922010-01-08T14:01:47.175-08:002010-01-08T14:01:47.175-08:00Thanks for pointing out the essential truth in thi...Thanks for pointing out the essential truth in this piece as it relates to the human experience in general. I appreciate your observation, and your call to action for all of us who are getting older (who isn't?), and who haven't achieved some of the things that were important to them not so long ago, me included. <br />Thanks, Wendy.Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-60700750539866804162010-01-07T19:42:32.440-08:002010-01-07T19:42:32.440-08:00Your post is true for all of us, Rick. As my Dad ...Your post is true for all of us, Rick. As my Dad always used to say, "There will always be greater and lesser persons than yourself." We usually went on to have the discussion about how if I want it to be different, I am the only one who can make the change. There are a lot of things I thought I would be and do by this point in my life that have not happened. Some of those things were foolish dreams, and others are life goals that I've yet to see come to fruition. And with the big 55 milestone happening in a couple of days, I'd better get crackin'!Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03361076209603565742noreply@blogger.com