tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post7598296483395969239..comments2023-12-14T13:49:25.768-08:00Comments on This Gay Relationship: I Cried…Rick Modienhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-2282283591299965592014-11-03T17:09:22.232-08:002014-11-03T17:09:22.232-08:00Hi, RG. Thanks for your interest in finding out h...Hi, RG. Thanks for your interest in finding out how I'm doing. <br /><br />I've been thinking about writing a follow-up to the "I Cried..." post, but I wasn't sure anyone would be interested. Believe me, I've learned a lot through this process–about the process and about me.<br /><br />The short answer to your questions is, I'm healing at a normal rate, but it will be some time before things get back to normal. It's possible they won't get back to normal at all (although I'm praying that won't be the case). <br /><br />Currently, I cannot flatten my palm on a table, so, for example, I can't push a grocery cart from the top of the handle (I can on the sides), I can't hold on to the handlebars on a bike, and I can't type with both hands. I have a long way to go to get the strength back in my arm, wrist, and hand, overall. And a long way to get the flexibility and range of motion back. It's frustrating, but, like everything else, it's one day at a time. We'll see.<br /><br />Thanks for checking back, for your concern, and for your comment. I sincerely appreciate it.Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-41911420270159441292014-11-01T09:33:55.029-07:002014-11-01T09:33:55.029-07:00Hi Rick,
I've been checking back from time to ...Hi Rick,<br />I've been checking back from time to time for an update and/or further insights. Hope the healing is continuing to go well. What does come after a second cast is removed? How long until a return to normal...and maybe even another bike adventure? Take care!Aging Gaylyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09886888900957765438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-50521710121428053642014-10-15T11:48:41.766-07:002014-10-15T11:48:41.766-07:00attmay, thanks for your wonderful comment.
It'...attmay, thanks for your wonderful comment.<br /><br />It's funny. We know those who love us really love us. But, when something like what happened to me happens, and those loved ones come through for us in extraordinary ways, in my case, it not only comforted me, but also it unsettled me. Chris was so selfless in how he addressed my every need that I couldn't help but be deeply moved–which, of course, resulted in everything I wrote about here.<br /><br />Yes, my arm is better now, well on its way to healing. Next Tuesday, my second cast gets removed; I can't tell you how much I'm looking forward to that. But, as this experience is all new to me, I don't know what to expect then. I guess I'll have to wait and see.<br /><br />Thank you for the comment about vulnerability. Being vulnerable, as well as dependent upon the kindness and compassion of others, is not an easy place to be. This experience really stripped me–physically and emotionally. I'll be processing for some time to come what it all means, because it wasn't really just about having a broken arm at all, was it?.<br /><br />Thanks for your comment and your kind words. I truly appreciate them.Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-47832104579214551522014-10-15T09:59:20.949-07:002014-10-15T09:59:20.949-07:00I cried when I read your comment, too, not just be...I cried when I read your comment, too, not just because I've been through the trauma of a broken arm, but because of how touched I was that Chris came through for you when you needed him. This is what being in love and having love is all about. Hopefully, your arm has gotten better by now.<br /><br />But no, you're not a fraud for admitting to a moment of vulnerability. I honestly wish more gay men would admit to those.attmayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16647102054827484863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-7970377934045654292014-10-12T12:32:11.776-07:002014-10-12T12:32:11.776-07:00What a beautiful comment, Ed–beautiful, generous a...What a beautiful comment, Ed–beautiful, generous and kind. <br /><br />And what a compliment to me as a writer that you felt what I was going through, that you identified with me, even to the point of crying yourself. That means a lot. You have no idea.<br /><br />Yes, from time to time I need to be reminded to take my own advice. It's so easy to slip back into old behavior patterns, isn't it? I suppose the important thing is that we don't stay there, that we pick ourselves up and keep moving forward. I'm hopeful I've been able to do that.<br /><br />Thank you for your kind words about my blog and how it's helped you. I never know for sure if my words mean anything to anyone beyond me. All I can do is write them, be as honest as I know how, and hope they make a difference–even a small one–in someone's life. <br /><br />I'm doing okay, Ed. Thanks for your concern. My fiberglass cast comes off in about nine days. Then the real work begins to regain full use of my arm and hand again. I won't know the long term effects, and restrictions to my movement, for many months–perhaps not for as long as a year–after the accident. But I'm hopeful I'll be back to normal very soon.<br /><br />Many thanks for taking the time to read this VERY long post, and for leaving such a wonderful comment. I hope to hear from you again. All the very best. <br /><br />Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-44961605601273929672014-10-12T11:59:25.703-07:002014-10-12T11:59:25.703-07:00I cried... Reading this post! I admire you so much...I cried... Reading this post! I admire you so much for having the courage to share all this with us. It's just so personal and vulnerable. In some moments I kinda felt like I was you, going through the whole experience while reading it. I couldn't help the tears. And don't be to hard on yourself! The fact that you advise people here doesn't exclude the fact that you're still human. Now take all the amazing advices you've given here and apply them into your own life! I've been learning so much from you since I started reading this blog, so It's fair that you also learn something yourself. Thanks for opening up your heart on such a deep level. I hope you're doing great and recovering fast. <br />Ed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-22847699098594001742014-10-04T08:15:48.789-07:002014-10-04T08:15:48.789-07:00Don't be deceived, Wendy. That smile I wear i...Don't be deceived, Wendy. That smile I wear is pasted on. Chris insisted on taking the picture, so I'd have something to remember this experience by (could have lived without it), and he wouldn't let me go until I smiled for him.<br /><br />Yes, I'm being well taken care of, but it's an eye-opening experience to have only one hand to do everything with, living and sleeping with a cast, etc. Chris has been REMARKABLE. I couldn't get through this without him. <br /><br />(By the way, I didn't think you were still reading my blog posts. Thanks for taking all the time to get through this long one. It's always good to hear from you.) Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-87975459191829021352014-10-02T15:45:37.851-07:002014-10-02T15:45:37.851-07:00Oh Rick, I nearly cried right along with you while...Oh Rick, I nearly cried right along with you while reading this! How awful! But I see on the picture that you are smiling and you look pretty darn good, so I am satisfied that you are being well taken care of. I guess maybe the up side is that you broke your left arm and you can still type. Silver linings, my friend, silver linings. Take care!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-17465718502093409862014-09-30T22:54:42.412-07:002014-09-30T22:54:42.412-07:00What a sweet, generous, and wonderful comment, Sar...What a sweet, generous, and wonderful comment, Sarah. You can't imagine what it means to me that you took the time to read this post and to share your thoughts. Somehow, saying thank you doesn't feel like enough.<br /><br />Thank you. I really appreciate it. Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-47950826666576623052014-09-30T18:47:20.319-07:002014-09-30T18:47:20.319-07:00I think it's wonderful you're open to the ...I think it's wonderful you're open to the journey you're on, and to helping others by sharing your experiences, Rick. May you go from strength to strength. (And how fortunate you are to have Chris by your side!)<br /><br />I'm sending gentle hugs from Halifax, with hopes for complete, speedy, and comfortable healing (physical, emotional, spiritual). <br /><br />--SarahAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com