tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post9138878247112918906..comments2023-12-14T13:49:25.768-08:00Comments on This Gay Relationship: A Tragic AnniversaryRick Modienhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-70088772541287262602011-09-09T10:53:28.666-07:002011-09-09T10:53:28.666-07:00@Tina: Today, I expect to publish the post I said...@Tina: Today, I expect to publish the post I said I'd write as a result of being inspired by your first comment. I hope you'll check it out. Thanks for being so patient.<br /><br />@elevencats: Thanks for taking the time out of your busy school schedule to read my recent posts and to leave a comment. I really appreciate it. <br /><br />And thanks for responding to Tina's comment. Yes, Tina is a special young lady. She is what we wish all young people were today--open in mind and spirit. <br /><br />While I want the beautiful exchange between you and Tina to stand on its own, I'd like to make a few comments related to what you wrote:<br /><br />1. You wrote, "I have lived over twenty years myself, ten knowing I'm gay, and I still don't comprehend what being gay means." To which I respond, I've lived almost fifty-two years, and I'm only now beginning to understand what being gay means, and how best to work with the reality of it in my life. <br /><br />I suspect it's something we will come to terms with, in one way or another, until we're put in the ground. But what has helped me most is writing this blog, sharing my thoughts with the world, and receiving comments from readers like you. As the tagline to my blog suggests, together, we will lift the experience of being gay...by understanding ourselves and each other better.<br /><br />2. If I may be so bold, I have to let you know we are not here on earth to make everyone like us. I spent decades trying to do that, too. Sometimes, I succeeded; most times, I didn't. You're right, it takes too much energy to do that. Now, I understand I'm not here to be liked, I'm here to make a difference. Some people will like and respect me for that, and others won't. That's the way it goes. <br /><br />And, by the way, like Tina says, you're gay and I like it. <br /><br />All the best this school year. As always, it's great to hear from you.<br /><br />@Tina#2: Thanks for your wonderful exchange with elevencats. <br /><br />It might surprise you to learn elevencats lives in Estonia, and, as I've gotten to know him over the past nine months through his comments, I've learned he's an incredible young man with so much to offer the world and to share with a same-sex partner. He's a sweet human being, made all the sweeter because he's sensitive and intelligent...and, yes, gay. I hope my blog can in some small way make his journey as a young gay man a little better and a little easier.<br /><br />What pleases me so much about your comments is how you've opened yourself up to learn about, and to better understand, gay people--unlike so many others. We are not the sick freaks some people think we are. First and foremost, we are human beings, and the fact that your spirit has embraced us says so much about you and the hope we should all have for a better future together. <br /><br />Many thanks for taking the time to visit my blog and for your compassionate and understanding comment. I hope you'll stop by often.Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-45838560826741917132011-09-09T04:22:12.452-07:002011-09-09T04:22:12.452-07:00Dear elevencats,
reading your comment really makes...Dear elevencats,<br />reading your comment really makes me want to cry, because it reminds me of my uncle. To be a straight girl, even I have constant struggle through life, also trying to make people like me and at the same time try to be open about my feelings towards other people and tell my own aspect of things. Of course by trying to make people like me, it is hard for me to try to defend my points of views. But I have started to learn, that if people around me don't want to listen to my opinions, there is no reason for me to hang around with them, because clearly they don't respect me enough to take me even half seriously.<br /> I feel really sad, because it must be extremely hard to struggle through life as a gay/lesbian person in this new age society where gay-hating and bashing still occurs. I mean if life is even hard for me, how could I possible understand what you or other gay society's members have to go through? <br /> What ever other people say, I won't give up on my opinion about gay people. Everybody are humans just like me or anybody else, and no one has a right to bash anybody anywhere. I'm sure there are others like me who wont sink so low to offend others just because they are gay or from a different nationality, I'm positive about it. <br /><br />P.S. <br />elevencats: Your gay and I love it. I hope someday in the future all the gay hating and other racisms would end, and people could be comfortable as who they are. Wish you all the best now and in the future too! :))Tinanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-79717834099951978442011-09-08T14:34:56.103-07:002011-09-08T14:34:56.103-07:00Young people like you make me feel like there is t...Young people like you make me feel like there is tremendous amount of hope. Sometimes it is quite hard to hear people using “pede” (“faggot”) about bad situations or unwanted people. Sadly it is inevitable. That some people find being gay the worst thing and would literally eliminate me to protect themselves and their loved ones from my bad influence. They form groups, plan meetings, etc. For example, a few years ago many people marched on the streets of my current hometown to protect marriage from gay people, there was also a meeting and volunteers with rainbow-colored umbrellas who gathered signatures to protect marriage from other forms of commitment. And then there are people like you, Tina, who support us. For me, it is heart-worming to think that there are supporters among straight people. I have lived over 20 years with myself, about 10 years knowing I am gay, and I still don't comprehend what being gay means. I think that one has to be emotionally extremely smart to support someone who is different!<br />Sometimes I think that maybe I expect too much from other people. Maybe accepting another person for their orientation is as good as it can get. I can't think that everyone will stop hating me and say “Your gay and I love it.” More realistic solution is that many people will say “I don't understand why you like to spend your life with a man, but I respect you.”<br />I am a person who is happy when everybody likes me. I remember that from school. I tried to please everyone... and I can say, it is a hard work. Putting up a show and not being myself is energy demanding. <br />I think that when I would be truly myself, about two people would love me completely. But on a daily basis, I have to live with many other people. Some of them would kill me instantly, if the would know I like dudes. Some of them would say “Your sick.” What it all comes down to, is that all those negative and positive aspects balance out. I can't eat chocolate all the time, I also need to eat things I don't like that much, to understand how marvelous chocolate truly is!elevencatsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-83128810785939277062011-09-07T13:31:04.383-07:002011-09-07T13:31:04.383-07:00I'm glad that my comment gave you stuff to wor...I'm glad that my comment gave you stuff to work on. I am going to stay tuned and check back for your response. Thank you :))<br /><br />Wish you and Chris the best luck!Tinanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-16098011049001244162011-09-07T10:22:51.216-07:002011-09-07T10:22:51.216-07:00My sincere thanks, Tina, for leaving such a great ...My sincere thanks, Tina, for leaving such a great comment. In so few words, you said so much. In fact, I'd like to use your comment as the basis for an entire post, because you've given me so much to work with. I hope you'll check back within the next several days for my response.<br /><br />On behalf of all gay and lesbian people, thank you for being the open-minded young woman you are. You give us hope the world might just change for the better where gay people are concerned. You are a wonderful example for your friends and people your age. Never forget that.<br /><br />Thanks again, and please be sure to check back for my response to your comment.Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-52520843228250424842011-09-07T06:36:11.950-07:002011-09-07T06:36:11.950-07:00Reading your blog has really opened my eyes about ...Reading your blog has really opened my eyes about gay people and their relationships. I just turned 18 this year and I am a straight girl. I have always wondered why people around me seem to be against gay society, they always say gay people are this and that, well, shortly nothing good. But since young when my family found out my uncle is gay and he left home, I have determined to believe, gay people are the same as others. Why was I forbidden to contact my uncle? The man who took me out to play when others were too busy to notice me. Even now I still don't now where he is.<br /> When I entered high school two years ago, I thought youngsters now a days would be more open minded, guess I was wrong. Some of my friends hate gay people, just because their parents think gay people are sick. I want my friends to think like me, be open minded, but it seems so hard. Why are some people so hard headed? Even though I think they are wrong, and want them to be open minded, is it OK for me to try? Or would it be wrong? I mean, people are free to believe in what ever they want, right? So should I just let them be, let them believe in what they want to?Tinanoreply@blogger.com