I hate it because it has the word sex in it; and because, for that reason, it's distracting for a lot of people; and because it's an easy label for people to compartmentalize people like me; and because it focuses people on something that's none of their business; and because it emphasizes sex over every other aspect of being gay; and because it makes sex seem like the basis of my relationship with Chris; and because it allows people to think that all homosexuals do is have sex; and because it has negative connotations.
I hate the word "gay."
I hate it because it's an easy label for people to compartmentalize people like me; and because it's a perfectly good word in the English language that has negative connotations, preventing straight people from using it unless labeling someone who's homosexual; and because I'm not the least bit gay about being a homosexual; and because it's too simple a word for something that's so complex; and because it's often the first word used to describe someone, instead of words like intellectual, or writer, or human being.
I'm a human being first, and a homosexual or a gay last.
In the meantime, I'll continue to work on finding a word that appropriately captures the beauty of life and love that is shared between two men.