Showing posts with label positive images. Show all posts
Showing posts with label positive images. Show all posts

Friday, December 19, 2014

Hawaii

The month of December is getting on, and I haven't posted anything yet.

On the eleventh, Chris and I returned from nearly two weeks in Hawaii.  While we were there, a couple of people took pictures of us together–one an employee at the Honolulu Coffee Company, in the Westin Moana Surfrider Hotel, and the other a man walking down the pier at Waikiki Beach.  I've included both pictures here.  One of them will end up on our customized Christmas card next year.

If you have one, which is your preference?

(By the way, the hat was a lot of fun to wear.  I didn't think I had a hat face, but maybe I do.)

  

Monday, November 10, 2014

Chris and Me, November 2014

Time to ditch the picture of me wearing a cast; that's so October.  (By the way, I know I didn't post anything in October.  It was a rough month, considering…)

This past weekend, Chris and I were already thinking about our custom annual Christmas card (you can never be too prepared for these things).  To that end, we brought our camera and tripod to Queen Elizabeth Park on Saturday, and wouldn't you know it, the first picture was the best of the ten or so we snapped.  This was the one we used for our 2014 Christmas card we send to everyone (except each other, of course).

And look…no cast.  That doesn't mean I'm not still recovering.  I'll be at that for some time to come.  But I can give a good semblance of normalcy in a picture, can't I?

(By the way, I'm thinking of writing a post on the aftermath of wearing a cast for six weeks.  But I don't know if I'm up for it yet.)

I hope you like the picture.


Friday, December 23, 2011

Happy Homecoming!

How beautiful is this?

Brian J. Clark, The Virginian-Pilot, The Associated Press

As reported in a number of newspapers yesterday, this photograph, taken Wednesday of this week, shows U.S. navy Petty Officer 2nd Class Marissa Gaeta kissing Petty Officer 3rd Class Citlalic Snell, her partner of two years.  Gaeta's ship had returned from eighty days at sea.

As MetroNews reports, "It is a time-honoured tradition at U.S. navy homecomings [that] one lucky sailor is chosen to be first off the ship for the long-awaited kiss with a loved one. Yesterday [Wednesday] in Virginia Beach, Va., for what is believed to be the first time, the happily reunited couple was gay [p. 08]."

This past September 20, the "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policy in the U.S. military came to an end. It's no accident the first "lucky sailor" chosen was a lesbian woman.  

I'm thrilled to add this to my Positive Images series.  How more positive an image can you get?

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

Pictures of "This Gay Relationship" in Whistler

In my ongoing effort to present positive images of gay men in relationships--and assuming Chris and I are looked at in that way--I want to share with you several pictures of us from our recent trip to Whistler.  One of these pictures (with whatever cropping is necessary) will likely be on the customized Christmas card we send to family and friends this year, but we haven't decided which one.  Do you have a preference?

One

Two

Three

Thursday, September 15, 2011

Positive Images, Part 5 (Roy and William)




No words are necessary.

My sincere thanks to photographer Richard Rinaldi for granting me permission to grace my blog with his extraordinary photograph.

(Please visit Richard Rinaldi's website here and here.)

Thursday, July 14, 2011

New Pictures of "This Gay Relationship"

Recently, Chris and I bought a tripod to replace the one I broke when we lived in Victoria.  On the very same day, we happened to have decent enough weather that we could get outside and take pictures of ourselves together as a couple.  

I'm pleased to share a few of those pictures with you now because I believe, just like the photos of supposed gay couples in ads for TD Canada Trust (which I featured in "Positive Images"), they put a positive face on the reality of what a gay male couple can look like.  

I hope you like these.  Let me know what you think.



Friday, April 22, 2011

Positive (Vintage) Images, (Part Four)

So I went looking for a single vintage photograph that presented gay men in a positive way--because we could use all the positive images of gay couples we can find--and I hit the motherlode.

I remember the art book publisher Harry N. Abrams released a book filled with pictures like these some years ago, and, as I turned the pages, one after another, I found each one life-affirming.  Each validated what Chris and I share together all these years later.

Gay couples have been around forever.  We are only a few in a long line of men who loved other men. Imagine how subversive--and frightening--it must have felt way back when to have your picture taken with another man in these ways.  

I hope you enjoy the images.  Let me know what you think.










And my favorite:




All images are from http://www.gaytwogether.com

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I found the book I referred to above.  It's called Dear Friends: American Photographs of Men Together, 1840-1918, by David Deitcher.  According to Chapters.ca, it's still available in soft cover.









Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Positive Images (Part Three)



So this is what we missed, if we watched Sunday night's Oscar telecast, when Josh Brolin and Javier Bardem appeared on stage together to hand out two awards, and the camera cut to Penelope Cruz in the audience, lingering on her for an unusual length of time.

I have to tell you, seeing two straight, masculine men like Josh and Javier kiss is kind of hot, but it's cool, too.  Good for them.  Why they kissed makes no difference to me.  The fact they did increases their attractiveness in my book.  I appreciate the positive image they portrayed of two men engaged in an intimate gesture.

Boo to ABC for preventing this from being shown.  What a great opportunity they turned their back on to show two men being affectionate with each other.  We see men killing men all the time on TV, including all the blood and gore.  I guess that's more acceptable than a simple kiss.

Monday, February 21, 2011

The Happy Couple of "This Gay Relationship"

So I know I've presented positive images of gay couples in print advertisements for TD Canada Trust, but we realize the folks in those pictures are models and not in real relationships, right?

That being the case, I thought I'd share several pictures of Chris and me together over the years.  I know finding photos of real gay couples is difficult, and, since this blog is about a real gay relationship, and many of my readers are gay men who want to be in relationships of their own, I thought you might find these inspirational.  At least I hope you do.

Twenty years ago, I would never have believed I'd have pictures of me and my life partner to share with anyone.  The fact that I do speaks to the possibility of the same thing happening in your life, if that's what you want.  As they say, if it can happen to me, it can happen to you.  

I hope you like these.

December 2006:  Chris and me on Waikiki Beach, with Diamond Head in the background.  We stopped an Asian woman walking along the beach and asked her to take our picture on our last full day there, just before we watched the sunset.  We're grateful she obliged.  
What a magical place Hawaii is.  Prior to going there, I would never have believed it.  We've gone back once more since.
June 2008:  Chris and me on a winery tour in British Columbia's Okanagan Valley, near Naramata.  Chris is the wine connoisseur and, since I don't drink, I'm the designated driver.  Many wineries have amazing restaurants with great views of the valley.  This is one of them.  
September 2008:  Chris and me in Paris, with Notre Dame de Paris in the background.  A very sweet American couple happened to walk by, saw we were challenged to get a picture together, and volunteered to help us out.  This was only day two of our trip.  We still had nearly two full weeks left. What a great time.  
Christmas Day 2009:  Chris and I went for a walk in a local park.  He found a post with a flat top and programmed the timer on the camera to snap this picture.  It's the same picture as the one on my profile here.  I love the browns and greys.  Very rustic looking, even though Chris and I are anything but rustic.
Can you tell the sun was shining but it was freezing cold?  My hands were like ice.  I had gloves; who knows why I didn't have them on.

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Positive Images (Part Two): TD Does It Again

So yesterday, I opened "The Vancouver Sun," and I saw an ad for TD featuring a heterosexual couple.  Looked great, as all TD's ads do, but, honestly, I missed seeing the ad from last week, featuring a gay, older couple on a street in an historic area of a city or town (see "Positive Images (Revised)," published on January 12, 2011).

But, this morning, I opened my newspaper again, and there, on A5, was another TD ad, taking up almost a full page, this one with another gay male couple on it, and not the same couple as last week.

The scene in this image is on a dock at a lake in front of a two-storey, white vacation home.  In the background is a forest, and parked along the dock in the foreground is a fancy speed boat.  On the dock is a handsome gay couple, a man in black and white stripped shorts and black Polo shirt, sitting in TD's iconic large, green, upholstered chair (I'll call him Ernie), and his partner sitting next to him on the arm of the chair, wearing Khaki shorts and a red and white checkered shirt (I'll call him Burt).

Ernie has his right elbow resting on Burt's thigh, and Burt is leaning in to Ernie, his left hand resting on Ernie's upper arm, his right hand on Ernie's right bicep.  Both men look to be in their forties, Burt with short grey hair, a little bit of life's experience in their faces, and both have shared a good laugh or have seen something funny in the distance, judging from their broad smiles.  Perhaps they're pleased with themselves for the financial decisions they've made over the years as a long-time couple (I can fantasize about the details all I want), allowing them to buy this Cape Cod-style vacation home any of us would be happy to own.

Anyway, if TD doesn't stop presenting all of these positive images in their newspaper ads, I might just get the idea being a gay male couple is as normal and natural in Canada in 2011 as has been the case for straight couples since the beginning of time (or at least since TD began advertising in big city newspapers). I'm not sure what would happen if the general population started to get that idea. Who knows where that could lead us.

Once again, I must commend TD for playing a major role in increasing the visibility of gay, older male couples in a positive and uplifting way.  For all intents and purposes, Chris and I are the two men on that dock, and I'm thrilled we're shown in a way that's respectful, gives us our dignity as a same-sex couple, and demonstrates we're just like straight couples, in love with each other and sharing a life together.

I hope the caption at the top of the newspaper ad is prescient.  It states in bold white letters:

                                    Today:  Dreaming the dream.
                                    Someday:  Living the dream.

I don't take this to mean only living the dream of owning a vacation home on a lake somewhere (which is not really Chris's and my dream anyway).  More importantly, I take this to mean, today, we dream the dream of being an openly gay couple out in public, with no judgement brought to us.  And, someday, that dream will be a full-blown reality.

Thanks again, TD.  We love you for your support and commitment of gay people everywhere.  Keep up the great work.

P.S.:  The picture above is obviously not the one I describe in this post, but I love it, too.

(A couple of things:
1).  TD, if you're listening, please consider presenting real gay couples in your ads, for the reason I specified in my earlier post about last week's ad; and
2).  If you live in small-town Canada, please let me know if any of TD's same-sex ads appear in their branches or in your local newspapers.  Thanks.)

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Positive Images (Revised)

And the prize for the best representation of gay men in the mainstream media ever goes to...TD Canada Trust, for its ad on page A8 in "The Vancouver Sun" on Tuesday, January 11, 2011 (and I hope other newspapers across Canada).  

When I saw the image--which, thanks to ChaoticGRRL, I'm now able to include in this post--my heart was filled with pride for being a gay man (possibly in a way it never has been before).  I've waited years for something like this, to see myself represented in a positive and upstanding way.  Finally, in so many ways, I feel validated.    

Here's a brief interpretation of what's included in the picture:

It's a street scene, probably in a historical section of a big city (I'll guess Montreal), late September, early evening. Think stone facades on low-rise buildings, character windows, a brick-paved walkway, large, illuminated Colonial lanterns--really charming, warm, and old world.  In the background to the right is a man and a woman, he wearing a tam, she a large, bright red scarf, both strolling down the walkway, her left arm wrapped around his right arm.

The prime subjects of the picture are a couple of men, one tall, black, wearing dark grey slacks, a light grey, zippered sweater, and a purple shirt, a large paper shopping bag propped in his left arm containing a French baguette surrounded by some green leafy vegetable.

The second man is shorter, Caucasian, cropped grey hair, wearing grey jeans, a black jacket, and a white shirt, a purple-and-white striped shopping bag hanging from his right hand, and a white/grey/red scarf knotted loosely around his neck, like every second man in Paris.  The white fellow has his left arm around the black fellow's right arm, mimicking the image of the straight couple down the street behind them.  Both men wear warm, contented smiles, obviously a happy, loving gay couple, as they walk home to make dinner together.

Here's why this ad wins the prize:

1.  It's bold.  Make no mistake, the picture is about these two gay men, in love with each other, in a long-term relationship.  No coyness here.  No confusion about who they are and what they are.        

2.  The two men are older, perhaps in their mid-fifties.  They are both attractive and take care of themselves.  They are dignified, vital, even sexy.  How many times have you seen two older gay men portrayed that way?  

3.  Both men are immaculately attired.  Gratefully, a twenty-something, overblown muscle hunk in nothing but his Calvin Kleins is nowhere to be seen.  Which just goes to show muscles and nudity are not necessary to get our attention.

If I could make just two teeny-tiny suggestions on how this image could be improved for the future, they would be:

1.  The ring on the left hand of the Caucasian fellow should be on his wedding finger, not on his pinkie (a gay stereotype).  Thus, a shout-out could be given to Canada, one of the few countries in the world progressive enough to legalize same-sex marriage.

2.  Feature real gay couples--real gay men in real relationships with each other (I suspect the two men in this ad are models, not a true couple).  Using real gay couples would add a layer of authenticity to the image and to your advertising campaign. Chris and I are available.

Congratulations, TD Canada Trust!

You've taken a big risk featuring a gay male couple and presenting it as equal to a straight couple--in respectability, legitimacy, even normalcy.  No doubt, some of your customers don't appreciate your position and have taken their business elsewhere.  On the other hand, you've likely gained customers because they salute you, your progressiveness, and your celebration of diversity.      

Of all the large national corporations, you are the only one to take such a visible and positive stand on behalf of gay men, putting your reputation and your profitability behind it, thereby setting an example of the right thing to do.  Gay men, especially those in long-term, committed, and loving relationships, from Kitimat to Flin Flon to Grand Bank, join me in standing to applaud you.

Bravo!  And thank you.