The most important relationship you'll ever have…is the one with yourself
It's like you've read my mind. That quote sums up perfectly what I've been feeling for the past while.Thanks for it!
Anonymous, I knew someone would appreciate this quote. I also thought a reader might ask, what does it have to do with gay men (and I suspect lesbian women)? It's true that gay men don't have a monopoly on loneliness; there's enough of that going around for everyone. I've long thought loneliness, and the sense of not belonging, is an epidemic, no matter location, culture, or sexual orientation.But I know from personal experience what real, searing loneliness looks like. For most of the time before I met Chris, I was lonely beyond description, knowing I didn't belong in the straight world, and always feeling like I was on the outside looking in on the gay world. It's that sense of being in limbo, of acute isolation–despite living in large cities at the time–that nearly did me in. If you read enough of my blog, you'll note that, although the topics of posts appear diverse, they primarily relate to bringing people together, for something more than just sex. I want gay people to be in happy, fulfilling relationships. I want gay people to know what I've known with Chris for the past twenty years–the best twenty years of my life. And I believe, in my heart, the only way we can do that is to understand ourselves better, so we can accept and love who we are and, ultimately, make better choices. It's only then that we have what we need to truly allow someone into our lives and into our hearts in a meaningful way. I want every single gay person to experience real, true, committed, and enduring love. I want loneliness, and not belonging, to be a thing of the past. I sincerely hope this happens for you and everyone, gay or straight, who seeks it. Thank you so much for your interest in my blog and for taking the time to leave a comment. I really appreciate it.