Wednesday, January 4, 2012


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And so, after nearly three continuous years, I've decided to take a break from writing this blog.  This has not been an easy decision to make, but one that's been in the works for a while and one I believe is necessary.

I can't think of a better time than the beginning of a new year to assess what I've achieved with my blog, and to determine if I have anything further to offer on the same range of subjects, or if I need to go in a different direction.  Alternatively, maybe my blog has run its course.  I haven't figured that out yet.  

What I do know is I've put an enormous amount of time and effort into "This Gay Relationship," with the sincerest of intentions, and, for the most part, I'm pleased with what I've shared with you. I also know I want the experience of writing this blog for me, and the experience of reading it for you, to be valuable and worthwhile.  And I guess I wonder whether or not that continues to be the case.    

Who knows?  I could be back as early as tomorrow, if I figure out by then what I want to do with this platform, or if I'm suddenly inspired to keep doing what I've done to see where it takes us. On the other hand, it could be a while before I make an appearance again.  I guess time will tell.

Just because I'm taking a break doesn't mean I don't want to hear from you.  On the contrary.  If you read something in an existing post and wish to leave a comment, or if you'd like to send me an email (see Send Mail at the top on the righthand side), I hope you will.  I'd love to hear from you.  Even if I don't write anything new, I'm happy to support my work here, and to help with any question you may have or advice you may seek.    

In the meantime, there are 429 published posts for you to look at, going back to February 2009, on subjects ranging from how I came to terms with my homosexuality, to how Chris and my relationship works, to how to understand, accept, and love yourself (a subject near and dear to my heart, as it relates to all gay and lesbian people).  I hope you'll take this time to dig deeper into what is already here and find something that interests you.

As always, I'm grateful for your time and interest.  Far and away, 2011 was the best year ever for "This Gay Relationship," and I met some wonderful people through their generous comments, many of whom I consider friends. It also showed me what's required to keep energy going around a blog over an extended period, and how much time it really takes to do it well.  Before I recommit myself, I want to be certain my time (as well as yours) is well-spent.

Once again, thank you, and I look forward to reconnecting with you very soon.