Friday, April 17, 2009

Compliments for Gay Couples

I had the opportunity to talk to Maureen, our Vancouver lawyer, today regarding the purchase of our property in __________.

Unexpectedly, she made some great comments about gay couples. She said that when gay couples are stable in their relationships, it's pretty hard to beat them. She wasn't sure why this is the case, but she guessed that perhaps gay men are more in sync with each other. She said that they are often more stable, especially financially, because of their two incomes. Unfortunately, this isn't the case with Chris and me because I haven't been gainfully employed since July 2007; however, I've taken a different path--to pursue a lifelong passion--and, like Chris always says, you never know where that might end up. But Chris and I are definitely stable in our relationship, that's for sure, and I'm grateful for that every day we're together.

Maureen also mentioned that she'd recently been on a vacation in Mexico, and that she'd been in contact with two gay male couples there, who were really together, got along well with each other, and were a lot of fun to be with.

I had to tell Maureen that, of all the relationships I know, Chris and I are among the most stable. There's divorce in our families, as well as long-term singles (one of whom is now in a new happy relationship), and one in a complex, on-again/off-again relationship. I understand that people can't always know how their relationships will turn out when they link up with people they think are right for them, and that Chris and I are both incredibly fortunate to be with each other and to be as happy as we are.

Then, I just got a wonderful email from Lynn, a straight female friend, we spent time with at dinner and the casino last night (along with a few other people), who said she loves being around Chris and me, as well as other gay couples, because we're gay and because we're in a long-term monogamous relationship. She said she knows another gay couple who have been together for about forty years, and that they, like us, are a joy to be around. Finally, she said: "I like to surround myself with people who have positive energy, make me laugh, and treat each other with respect. You two [Chris and me] are all of the above."

I don't need to tell you that Chris and I rarely receive compliments about our relationship, and seldom are people supportive of us, not only because they like us as people but also because we're gay and bring a certain sensibility to our lives and how we interact with people.

Two compliments in one day, from two completely different people, thrill me, and I'm so happy to be able to share them with the readers of my blog.

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