Respectability*

(* 1.  The state or quality of being proper, correct, and socially acceptable.  2.  The state or quality of being accepted as valid or important.... (from Google dictionary)).

I believe many gay men have a respectability problem:  that is, they don't respect themselves, and, as a result, our society doesn't respect them either.  How else to explain some of the things many gay men do?

Unfortunately, the ones who don't respect themselves--who comprise the more visible part of our community--make us all look bad, because that's what our society sees.  And that's what it erroneously assumes we're all like.  

Here's the bottom line:  If we don't respect ourselves, who will?