The Story So Far: In Part One of this series, we covered how recognizing the problem of having low self-esteem is critical to improving it. Frankly, if you don't see your self-esteem is low and needs to be raised, you'll probably never do anything about it.
In Part Two, we talked about living consciously, particularly as it relates to working on learning to love yourself. If, as you work on raising your self-esteem, you continuously fall back into the same pattern of self-loathing--because you don't know you're doing it--any chance for improvement will be compromised.
Step #3: Turn Intention into Action
So you recognize you have a problem loving yourself as a gay man, and you want to change it. Also, you realize, in order to change it, you need to break your unconscious routines and live more in the moment. Now what?
Now, you need to commit to turn your good intentions into action.
Sure, it's great to want to lose weight at the beginning of a new year. How many of us don't? We eat our way through the Christmas holiday season, we anticipate the approach of summer beach weather, and we know January 1st, a new year and a fresh beginning, is the perfect time to get down to business. Our plan is a simple one: to eat healthier and to join a local recreation centre or gym to work-out on a regular basis.
This is our year, right? We've been talking about losing weight and getting healthy for so long. This time will be different. We'll make it happen, we tell ourselves. Our intentions are great, and we're all pumped up, especially as January 1st approaches. But, by the end of the first week of the new year, if not sooner, we've all but lost sight of our goal. What happened?
I don't need to tell you what happened. There are as many explanations, or excuses, for why people don't stick to a plan to eat healthier and to work out as there are people planning to. The point is, we can say we want to do something all we like, but if we don't actually get off our butts and do it, it won't happen. Simple as that.
So, when it comes to raising your self-esteem, I'm asking you to commit to make it happen, not at the beginning of a new year--because, as of the writing of this, January 1, 2014 is almost a year away--but immediately. That's right. This very minute. Because think about how much you'll accomplish between now and then. You'll be way ahead of the game, and you'll enter 2014 feeling so much better about who you are.
Really, when it comes to learning to love yourself, any day of the year can be January 1st. Any day of the year can be that fresh start you need. Any day of the year can be the one on which you take those first tentative steps toward not only improving your self-esteem, but also toward feeling better about you and your life.
So, commit to make this happen right now. Turn your intention into action. I promise it will be the best thing you've ever done. You will never regret the effort you put into improving your self-esteem.
Stay tuned for Step #4: Take Baby Steps Forward