Here is one of my favorite quotes from Alan Downs's The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World (which I highly recommend, by the way):
I am a man. I need to be loved. I need to love myself. I need to feel strong and to cry. I need to feel alive and to grieve my losses. I need to know that there is someone in this world who truly loves me. I need to love someone. I need a safe, stable and committed home. Truth is, I need all these things much more than I need great sex [p.p.: 22, 23].