Something I wrote to a reader in an email today resonated with me, and I want to share it with you.
The purpose of this blog is very clear and encapsulated in the sub-title: Together, elevating the experience of being gay by learning to understand, accept, and love ourselves.
A corollary to that might well be, if you don't understand, accept, and love yourself first as a gay person, you cannot possibly do the same for that special someone when he enters your life. (Or, as I wrote to my reader, if you hate yourself because you're gay, how can you love someone who is also gay?)
I have seen, or heard of, a good many gay male relationships fail because one, or the other, or both partners were filled with self-loathing. Their sexual orientation became the single greatest obstacle in the success of their relationship.
Given how many of you I know want to find that special person, be in love, and build a life together, I implore you to start doing the work on yourself right away.
The time to do the work isn't when you're in the throes of a relationship, when your focus should be on the other person and not on you. Get yourself together now, while you're still single. I know from experience what I'm talking about.