Thursday, June 13, 2013
Our Relationship Comes of Age
In some countries, states, and jurisdictions, the relationship I have with Chris officially comes of age today. That is, this being June 13, 2013, Chris and I celebrate our twenty-first anniversary. I will not be at home with him to share our special day, as I happen to be in Kelowna, on my annual visit with my mother. But I'm scheduled to return home tomorrow, and we'll mark the occasion then.
What's so remarkable to me is that, twenty-one years ago, I would never have thought I'd be where I am today–in a monogamous relationship, for twenty-one years, with one of the most amazing human beings I've ever met, and still madly in love. I am blessed, no question about that, and I couldn't be more grateful. I have what a good many other gay men confide in me they wish they had.
I know you've heard this before, particularly on televised awards shows, but it's true: If this can happen to me, it can happen to you too. I am all the proof you need of that. In other words, if an ordinary, nothing-special, mostly uptight, and not particularly easy to live with, gay man like me can find a wonderful human being to cherish and love for over two decades, I know for a fact it can happen to you too.
I hope when you look at me, you see someone very much like you. I hope you see how much we have in common: the belief that love (not sex) is the only reason we're here, love can happen to any of us at any time, and the degree to which you love yourself suggests the degree to which you're able to accept love from someone else.
For all of you seeking real and true love, let this be your year. That is my sincere wish for you.
Happy Anniversary, Sweetheart. I love you so much.