Some people say homosexuality is immoral. End of story. I disagree. The stereotypical gay lifestyle is what's immoral.
I am what I am. In the same way I could no more change being right-handed to left-handed, or white to black, I can't change being gay to straight. Born gay or raised gay--who cares? I am gay. I have a responsibility to myself to make the most of it, and that's exactly what I intend to do.
I'm as entitled as any straight person to experience love, to live my life with the person I love, and to grow old and crotchety together. That's not a straight or gay right--that's a human right. And no one has the right to take that away from me.
As gay people, we have choices. Among them is the choice to live our lives in a way that's morally upstanding. Thus, we have the choice to be promiscuous, as many gay men are, or to seek a partner, settle down, and build a life together.
Is my intention to make homosexuality more socially acceptable by suggesting we adopt the heterosexual ideal of monogamy? Sure. What's wrong with that? How can any of us think sleeping around is as beneficial to our gay culture, to our reputation, and to our spirit, as settling down?
Young gay people have choices, and I urge them to make the right ones. Giving in to the impulse to be promiscuous as you expand into the gay community is not only the easy route, it's been done before, countless times. Millions of times. Believe me.
You can do better than that. Respect yourself enough not to be used sexually. Even though you think you're getting something out of every time you sleep with someone, make no mistake, you aren't. You're only being used.
Promiscuity in the gay community is rooted in low self-esteem. When you believe you have nothing to offer anyone but sex, you give it away willingly, and you lose yourself in the process. No one ever learned to love himself by having sex with every cute face or hot body.
That can only be done by making the tough choices, by choosing to live up to a high personal standard, and by believing you're worth so much more than one-night stands.