'If you're struggling with this right now, I want you to go to the mirror, look at yourself and say "I'm (your name)." If the words "gay" or "bi" or "trans" or "queer" are on your lips, replace it with your name. Because that's who you are. That's the core of you. I hope you can understand that. It's something I didn't understand for far too long [p. 250].'
(From Jessica Leshnoff, "My Own Worst Enemy," It Gets Better: Coming Out, Overcoming Bullying, and Creating a Life Worth Living," Dan Savage and Terry Miller, eds.)