A little background. In July of this year, Donna Smaldone, whom I met when she responded to a post, and I became friends, even though I live in Metro Vancouver, she lives in New York State, and we've never met in person. You could say our spirits connected across the miles, because we get each other and what each of us is individually trying to do with his and her blog.
That same month, Donna invited me to guest blog on her website, "Donna Smaldone: Welcome to The You Evolution," which came as a pleasant surprise. She'd already written Parts One and Two of a series titled "When being gay isn't always so gay," and she entrusted me to complete the third and final part. I was thrilled and jumped at the opportunity. If you haven't read what I wrote, and if you'd like to read all of the series, please click here.
Then, in August, Donna prepared a video post on her site called "What exactly IS The You Evolution?" As I watched her explain, I saw how what she said applied not only to straight people but also to gay and lesbian people. That got me thinking I should ask Donna to guest blog for me, to share with you details about how The You Evolution applies to you, but I didn't get the courage to ask her until recently. (To see the video post, please click here.)
Donna is a vivacious, positive, and uplifting human being, and it gives me great pleasure to share her guest post with you. I hope you agree that what she has to say is both powerful and empowering. At the end of the post, you'll find a direct link to Donna's website. I invite you to be a part of what she has to say about being the best you you can be, both as an individual and in your relationships.
You were born to love and to love fully. So why should it matter who you were born to love?
I do not pretend to understand the trials, wounds, and judgments so many gay people have endured for loving who they love. As a straight woman, I admit there’s a certain luxury in being a heterosexual – and knowing my friends can’t enjoy that same luxury breaks my heart.
I’ve known my friend De since we were children. Although legally blind, she captures the essence of life in the most beautiful photographs. She’s an artist, a New England Patriots fan, and an unapologetically overindulgent Mama to pup “Juno”. De has a heart bigger than most and loves wholly and unconditionally. Oh, and her partner of twelve years is a woman.
De will tell you she’s never fully identified with labels—‘lesbian’ included. She’s merely succumbed to society’s need to paste it on her forehead. De once queried, “Why can’t I just be a woman who happened to fall in love with another woman?”
Love is love. Period. Unfortunately, people have become masters of condemnation of things they don't struggle or identify with themselves.
God’s not disappointed in us for loving who we love, man or woman. He’s disappointed in the disdain and disrespect we’ve adopted to pass judgment on how others love.
Friends, your love is not wrong. Your love matters. YOU matter.
In the beautiful uniqueness that is YOU, you’ve been given a purpose. There is NO ONE else on this earth who has been given the same purpose as you. Being gay does not negate this fact. If you aren’t embracing the uniqueness that is YOURS, not only are you missing out – but your friends, family members, neighbors, and co-workers are also missing out.
Embrace your individuality.
Everything that has happened in your life up to this point has played a role in your You Evolution™. Every smile, every kiss, every argument, every mistake. Every good, every bad, every one. Without even one of those things, events, or people – you would not be fully you.
Don’t give up on yourself. Don’t give up on your self. Gay or straight – it makes no difference – there is NO other like you. You are special. You are precious. You are beautiful. And in no way are you a mistake.
Like so many of you, I am honored to have Rick Modien in my life. He and I have yet to meet face-to-face, but our souls are connected across this great continent. Rick’s mission, to elevate the experience of being gay through understanding, accepting, and loving yourself, parallels my goal in The You Evolution™.
My hope through The You Evolution™ is to challenge YOU to embrace your own unique, personal journey so you may contagiously enjoy community and relationship with others. Thank you to Rick and to each of you for allowing me to be part of your journey.
To access "Donna Smaldone: Welcome to The You Evolution," please click on the logo or here.